August 12, 2004

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  Mirror...Mirror...on the wall
   
  
  

  Who is the prettiest of them all?  Am I pretty she asked? Am I? In her mind she wishes for it to say "You"  Why does she want that validation? Why does she need someone to tell her what she is worth? 

  
  

  Why do we need that? Why does it seem to be the norm with men and women to need validation?  Why would we believe others with what they say about us or what they think we should be? This kind of attitude is what leads to so many problems in our society.  I started a fitness xanga not so long ago, because I wanted to track my fitness progress everyday, and as I began to read other fitness blogrings I saw literally hundreds of ANA and MIA sites (for those not well verse on these abbreviations ANA stands for Anorexic Nervosa Anonymous, and MIA stands for BuliMIA). I'm not here to condone or oppose these two state of minds. I just question myself whether its healthy to bombard us everyday with models of the perfect body, and this in turn ends up harming the younger generation.  There is no perfect body. I mean none. Don't compare yourself with anyone! You are unique, absolutely and infallibly perfect in your own right.  No one has the right to judge you nor evaluate your look of your personality, REMEMBER that! No one I mean not a single person has the right to tell you who you are or who you must be. If there was a perfect body or a perfect person in this world then that person was made up, or was surgically enhanced.  I tell you now, you are and you can be the best person you want to be, just believe in YOU!  Don't let anyone tell you what or who they think you are.

  
  

  How come they don't teach us at school about self confidence? How come they don't show us that believing in ourselves is one of the most important skills we will need to succeed in life.  Because with self belief comes determination, motivation, and the strength to do anything.  If you believe in yourself then you will try to do anything, you will never hesitate to reach for your dreams, to excel your own and everyone else's expectations.  I learned a long time ago that no one knows me as good as I know myself, and if anyone should judge me, then it should be me.  No one and I mean no one can tell you who you ARE!

  
  

  I am lucky in that I have a few admirers, and to be fair I have my share of critics, and you would be suprised that some of my critics are closer to me in my life than my admirers, too close, and I know if I was weak, they would have broken me by now, imagine having your very own relative tell you how useless you are, and how this and that is wrong with you, and blame you for everything that has ever gone wrong!  I do. I know how it feels, but I also know who I am, and what I am aiming for, and that no one knows me best, and that no one knows what happens in the middle of the night when its just me working towards my future, no one knows what ideas form in my mind, and no one knows what I am capable of more than me.  I can't let someone else tell me how to live my life, for it is still mine, it is still my decision, and I am still the one who is left after everyone has gone. I am the one left to pick up each piece and pull through.

  
  

  Look within you and find the one who knows you best, the one who was always there through it all, and you will find no one will compare to the knowledge you have about yourself.  No matter how close you are to your mom, your gf/bf, your bestfriend, they will never know you better than you know yourself.  Therefore the evaluation lies in you, the wisdom is in your hands, the strength is in your soul.  You don't need anyone to tell you how pretty you are, or how sexy you are, how clever you are or how hardworking you are, or whether you can make it.  YOU know! you just know.  Look within you and realize that you hold your true self worth.  You don't need anyone to tell you who you are or what you can be!!

  
  

  You know..... and now go out there and show them!!

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